Narcissism is one of the dangerous personality traits that Joe Navero talks about in his book Dangerous personalities. We all have a little bit of narcissism in ourselves; it can be healthy because it pushes for achievement. It gets dangerous when someone is on the higher ends of the narcissism spectrum. We all will have to deal with narcissists sooner or later.
Narcissist defined – Someone who overvalues themselves and undervalues others. They are self-centered and only think about themselves. They will talk about how great they are and take no blame. They only want to hang out with people of high status. If you have a narcissist in your life, you should re-evaluate how much time you spend with them.
You can find narcissism in how they treat other people, a sense of entitlement, grandiosity over-inflation of status and attributes, and if they are self-centered.
Typically in women, narcissism shows up as self-righteous victims. Narcissist views their pain and suffering bigger than everyone else. They are larger insecure people, which is why they keep themselves on such a pedestal.
Where is comes from – Two common areas come from in childhood is when the parents tell them they are perfect and everything and cleaning up their mess. The other way is if the parents only accept them for their achievements, not unconditional love. Narcissists are the most insecure, so they can’t view themselves as vulnerable and possible at screwing up.
Keep them at a distance – The top way to deal with them is distance. Lower the time you are around that person. If they are a family member or, worse, a significant other, you may have to do more to keep your distance.
Confronting the Narcissist – Be very comfortable in your skin when you engage a narcissist. Keep vulnerability out of the conflict. Hold your ground and say if this behavior continues, I don’t know if I can continue this relationship. Put your vulnerable childhood self in a safe place. If the narcissist starts to blame or criticize, you say that you are going away because you do not want to talk to you under this state.
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